In some divorces, there are challenging and nuanced issues to be resolved between the parents when children are involved. Because of these issues, parents with children ordinarily are not permitted to finalize their divorce in less than 180 days, although that statutory waiting period often can be waived if the parents reach an agreement before then, and they jointly ask the court for a waiver. In cases where the parents cannot agree on parenting issues, a trial court sometimes will need to enter temporary orders governing custody and parenting time while a divorce is pending.
Typically, there are three main issues to be resolved in a divorce case that involves children:
Most states now have legislation requiring that in custody determinations, the parents have equal rights, regardless of the age of the child. Michigan has adopted this approach, abandoning the “tender years” presumption that previously had favored the mother in custody cases involving young children.
In cases where there has been domestic violence or abuse, those issues will have a significant impact on how custody and parenting time issues are resolved by the court.
With careful preparation, many parenting issues can be resolved outside of the courtroom, either through private negotiations, meditations, or sometimes with the assistance of parenting coordinators or counselors. While the planning and documentation necessary to effectively design and implement these solutions can be complex, the results almost always are worth the endeavor. These private solutions ultimately are far more cost-effective and longer-lasting than conventional litigation, because they eliminate the need to pit one parent against the other, greatly reducing negative and acrimonious debates between the parties, and taking the children out of the middle of parenting disputes.